# Success with accountability groups / accountabilibuddies? **URL:** \ **Category:** Akrasia\ **Created:** [May 9, 2025, 12:17am UTC](https://forum.beeminder.com/t/success-with-accountability-groups-accountabilibuddies/12352 "2025-05-09T00:17:56Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![kyle](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/forum.beeminder.com/kyle/32/5633_2.png) [@kyle](https://forum.beeminder.com/u/kyle)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2025, 12:17am UTC](https://forum.beeminder.com/t/success-with-accountability-groups-accountabilibuddies/12352/1 "2025-05-09T00:17:56Z")
I was wondering if anyone here has had success with longer term accountability groups / accountabilibuddies, and if so what has made them work for you? I have had the rough shape of what my ideal group would look like - a weekly longer check in then daily check ins in the morning with updates as needed through the day - but have never been able to find a person or group that has stuck around. I am aware that a big part of this just comes down to finding the right people, but also just wondering if others have gone on this journey as well and had success with it. I find that accountability works better than anything else for my ADHD brain and for fitness I pay a coach and for music I take lessons. There is a larger group of things that don’t fit into the categories that I would pay a coach for (nor can I afford to pay a coach for everything!) and I think there is space for more of a catch all group with other peers. Beeminder works great for my habits and routines, but for more nebulous items like longer term projects there is a missing human element that I think would help me along my path in addition to adding a datapoint to keep me on track. Also open to other ideas about platforms or services that people have tried for this sort of thing. I have tried some of the paid platforms to capture more nebulous things but never found the one-sided-ness of things to work out very well for me and I always end up dropping away. ---
**Author:** ![bee](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/forum.beeminder.com/bee/32/41_2.png) [@bee](https://forum.beeminder.com/u/bee)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2025, 11:26pm UTC](https://forum.beeminder.com/t/success-with-accountability-groups-accountabilibuddies/12352/2 "2025-05-10T23:26:46Z")
Well, the thing that’s really hard about accountabilibuddies is it’s so easy to let it slip away / subside over time. You could try a group goal with it so you were both/all on the hook for checkins. That could help with the diffusion of responsibility thing. Or you can farm out the responsibility to [datasmithing](https://blog.beeminder.com/datasmithing/) (Melissa has a daily co-working club for clients), or [baas](https://www.beeminder.com/baas). Or you can try something like Focusmate. If you had a Beeminder goal to keep you doing sessions on Focusmate, then whoever you’re paired with kind of slots into the social-accountability role without needing them to be consistent and keep up with you. ---
**Author:** ![zzq](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/forum.beeminder.com/zzq/32/6471_2.png) [@zzq](https://forum.beeminder.com/u/zzq)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2025, 6:26am UTC](https://forum.beeminder.com/t/success-with-accountability-groups-accountabilibuddies/12352/3 "2025-05-11T06:26:06Z")
The only way “accountability”-style mechanisms have ever worked for me is when they are very tightly bounded in scope. A book club is a good example: the commitment is very specific—reading the next section of the book in time for the next book club session—and also naturally time-limited, in that when you reach the end of the book the commitment is over. You can (and often do) start a new book with your club, but these defined endpoints mean that it’s a lot less likely to just peter out in the middle of a book. Anything open-ended ends up slipping away over time (as @bee said.) But if tightly scoped it _can_ work: the book club example is one example, but I’m sure that other similarly focused shared accountability groups could equally work. ---
**Author:** ![kyle](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/forum.beeminder.com/kyle/32/5633_2.png) [@kyle](https://forum.beeminder.com/u/kyle)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2025, 1:49am UTC](https://forum.beeminder.com/t/success-with-accountability-groups-accountabilibuddies/12352/4 "2025-05-12T01:49:53Z")
Thank you for the recommendations and thoughts! Agreed on it being so easy to let it slip away over time. I have tried BAAS before and it was useful, but the one-sidedness of coaching vs. working with peers made me fall away from it eventually. Coacing groups sound rad and I reached out to datasmithing 🙂 I also have an active Focusmate Beeminder goal - though I have not scheduled any recurring sessions as checkins. I think actually just setting up a regular one in the morning every day and at the end of my workday might be a good way for me to build checkins into my routines, even if the person on the other side is not doing the same. Will experiment with that! ---
**Author:** ![kyle](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/forum.beeminder.com/kyle/32/5633_2.png) [@kyle](https://forum.beeminder.com/u/kyle)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2025, 1:53am UTC](https://forum.beeminder.com/t/success-with-accountability-groups-accountabilibuddies/12352/5 "2025-05-12T01:53:29Z")
I was actually just talking to my partner about joining a book club together this week 🙂 I do think more tightly scoped groups like that would work well for me - maybe I just need to find more groups around me that are doing more of the things i’m focusing on. Will have to experiment with looking around for some others - thanks for the thoughts! ---
**Author:** ![dreev](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/forum.beeminder.com/dreev/32/4311_2.png) [@dreev](https://forum.beeminder.com/u/dreev)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2025, 10:31am UTC](https://forum.beeminder.com/t/success-with-accountability-groups-accountabilibuddies/12352/6 "2025-10-31T10:31:26Z")
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