I’m skating the YBR today and it so happens that by the time I’ll be done with my goals for today (there is a duration based one in there) an event starts that I want to attend. It aligns perfectly. So far so good. But 0 wiggle room.
My BFF just called asking to meet up and last time she did I already had to tell her I got no time because uni. And tomorrow she leaves town. And I told her uh… it’s like the one time where I actually got something planned. And then we decided she can come to said event, too. Awesome. Problem solved.
Until she brought up we should meet up before that and drink something so the event is funner and then she can show me her flat and we could talk. Because I haven’t seen her in months. And meeting up with her is always awesome and I’m in a really great mood afterwards. And at the event we can’t really talk because it’s a movie night.
And… that would make me derail. And there’s $30 at stake. Now I know, that’s “just” $30 and I won’t starve (not yet) if I just coughed it up.
But it got me wondering: So far on that goal (it’s a 6hrs per day goal) when I derailed because of extraordinary things I could not anticipate I cried non-legit. Or coughed up the money when it was something where I could still get my goal done albeit with a lot of stress. Basically “buy myself free”.
So for instance, when I called non-legit on that goal it’d be because of a sudden very strong and long lasting headache, some family emergency, intense drama in my social circle.
Doing so the goal worked for me exactly as intended so far. So I think I’m doing this right.
Now in this case I was wondering if the “she wants to meet up” falls under the unexpected stuffs category for me. Things I could not reasonably account for. And she calls like 2, 3 times a year. Very spontaneously. And that worked great in the past for I wasn’t wearing a rigid Beeminder corset.
And now I wonder a lot what to do.
There’s one thing I’m definitely not gonna do and that is to “massage” the data so I won’t derail. That’s not happening. So that leaves:
- I could of course just meet up with her directly at the event, we watch some movies and go separate ways again but that would be awkward and dumb and required a bit of explaining on my end why I got SUCH a strict timetable. Now she’s a super awesome person and she’d understand but still, it feels dumb.
- I cough up the $30
- I consider this non legit because in my book this is something very unexpected and I am convinced this goal will still work great for me even then.
I don’t think I’m a weaseler, it’s definitely not checked and again – so far this goal worked wonders for me and I don’t see why it’d stop doing that.
In the past whenever I derailed on this goal be it legit or not I always retroratcheted so I’d be on an eep day very soon. The only time I didn’t do that I thought “Maybe this time I can do without training wheels”. And I regretted it. No surprise there.
So – I’m between “cough it up” and “call it non-legit” because to me this is an exception in my book. What makes me gravitate for “cough it up” is at least partially the known “problem” that the Beeminder folks are super nice and I know it’s good when they get money.
Would it make me procrastinate less on this goal? I don’t think so, actually. And that’s why I am also gravitating towards “non legit in my book”.
So yeah, as you can see, I’m not making this decision easy on myself.
Now please throw at me what you’ve got! Opinions, love letters, life threats, routing numbers…