Hi folks! It seems like every year we have one of these posts, but how are folks beeminding social stuff these days? What are the caveats? What works super well for you?
I never even clicked through on any of these before, but now I work from home 100%, I’m considering it!
Previously (Beeminding social life, and Beeminding social skills - how to do it best?)
I keep this pretty general: I have a spend time with friends goal of four times a week, with each occasion being time spent with a distinct friend/group of friends (so this can be >1 in one day).
I’m a massive introvert so I really needed to create a goal that would help prevent isolation. But since I started dating a massive extrovert it has been much easier to meet this goal without much preparation or planning, and thankfully I have permission to opt out of joint social events when I need more time alone.
Hu, I don’t have any goal like this and no need (so far). Two things: I’m in a chat group with my best friends and it’s a very fun and active group with basically 0 noise.
Then some other friend and me meet like maybe once every two weeks and cook stuff together. But we’re also in a chat and talk daily.
And then I’m also a gamer and love playing co-op video games with my friends online. And while doing that we talk in voice chat about anything really. And it’s always super fun.
And that does the trick for me. I dunno. This has been working great for me for many years now. Can recommend!
I guess if you wanted you could turn that into beeminder-y goals. So for those who want some inspiration on this, maybe this helps
One goal that works well for me: ping my father and propose specific activity - trip, meeting etc.
We both like them but are really bad at ensuring that this kind of thing will happen.
Set to 0.5/day rate.
In last month resulted in multiple successful family activities that would likely not happen without that.
For a few important people, I have goals to make sure we are in touch on a semi-regular basis. (A few times a week for some, a few times a month for my mother, etc.) I have a Complice integration set up so data entry is painless.
I’ve also started using an app called Fabriq which I like for keeping tabs on that wider friend circle, though I haven’t totally succeed at keeping it updated… so maybe if I’m still interested in it in a month, I’ll beemind updating it.
I have a goal that tracks how many events that my wife and I go to. I keep the slope at 0 but it allows me to quickly see at a glance if it has been a long time since we have had a date night or went to an event.