My mom is distressingly busy, she says. I take that to mean that her
urgent tasks are crowding out her important tasks.
Well, one of Beeminder’s taglines – thanks to Andreas Stuhlmüller –
is “make the important urgent” so here’s my
everything-looks-like-a-nail advice:
Beemind all the important things in your life!
That’s overwhelming, objects my mom, keeping track of all those graphs.
I don’t think it is! Besides the fact that you can go to
bmndr.com/yourusername and see at a glance what colors all your graphs
are, we just made it so your number of safety buffer days is shown in
the subject line of the bot reminder emails and SMS reminders.
(If you can think of any other way to make it easy to stay on top of
the different things you’re beeminding, let us know!)
Here was the rest of my advice to my mom:
I think it really helps to beemind all of the important things in
one’s life that you’re not happy with: weight, workouts, time spent on
hobbies (like writing) that get short shrift (ha, nice pun!),
cleaning, jobhunting, etc…
Bethany beeminds cleaning – bmndr.com/b/housework – to force herself
to do a bare minimum of 15 minutes a day, but in your case you already
keep your house immaculate so you’re probably more like the
stereotypical college student who has to write a paper but first
decides they can’t concentrate in such a cluttered room so they better
first clean everything and do the laundry and etc etc.
Recall the rocks and pebbles parable [1]: some things will fall
through the cracks no matter what. Make sure that what falls through
the cracks is not major stuff that actually matters to your life. As
you know, just maintaining a household can easily be a full-time job
if you let it be. But 20 years from now you don’t want to look back at
your accomplishments for the last 2 decades and be like, well, I kept
the household running, and, that was it. When you were a full-time mom
that was another story, obviously, since raising kids is definitely a
full time thing (hence the need for full-time daycare if you want to
also have a job).
Anyway, beeminding is so gentle now with the road dial that I think
you should create yellow brick roads for all the things you might want
to beemind and then leave the roads flat so there’s zero pressure
until you’re sure you want to commit.
[1] http://messymatters.com/akrasia/#PEB
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